Are you planning on going to Germany in 2016? And are you
looking for the graves to visit and for cousins to say hello? Things might turn
out to be a bit difficult for both.
I wrote about the difficulties of finding your German
ancestor’s grave on August 31, 2015 in my blogpost “Finding your Ancestor’s
Grave (Or Not)” which you can find here http://bit.ly/1O2Lyi2.
But finding relatives actually isn’t that easy either.
The main reason for the difficulty of finding German
relatives simply is privacy. Not only are the privacy laws in German very
strict and it is complicated, time consuming and sometimes simply impossible to
find information on living people. But even when you manage to find them, you
might not be able to get in touch with them or even be invited to their house.
The reason for this is that Germans like to keep their privacy. They like to
stick with their own family and friends and are rather reserved with getting in
touch with people they do not know. And most of them simply aren’t looking for new
found cousins, be it first, second or third.
Another reason is that in Germany genealogy is a more or
less exotic thing to do. Remember, Germans usually stayed put and think they
know where they come from. There simply doesn’t seem to be a need to know more
and dig deeper. Therefore, most Germans aren’t even aware that they have
relatives abroad. It happens quite often that I find relatives but they simply are
unfriendly and hang up, making it very clear that they aren’t interested.
Often, there are no relatives in that area, their ancestors
simply moved and their descendants are impossible to trace. The earlier
emigration took place, the harder it is to find relatives.
But there still is hope and it is in fact possible to find
relatives that know about the emigration and welcome you to Germany (which does
not mean to their house). These are some examples where I found family members:
The emigrating ancestors had come from a small village close
to the Dutch border with a very active Historical Society. They had information
on everything a genealogist could ask for and knew directly which family member
had emigrated and what became of the siblings. And as it was a Historical
Society of a small village, many of its members were related. It only took one
phone call and the research was more or less completed. And within 2 months
about 200 family members from all over Germany met and welcomed their new found
family member from America!
The emigrating ancestors came from a small village in Baden.
I found out that there was a journalist living in the village, who also wrote
about the old houses in this area. He agreed to meet my client and it turned
out that they were distant cousins.
The family moved overseas in the 20th century;
therefore the memory of them simply was alive and the remaining cousins knew
about them and wanted to meet (but not in their home). I was only able to find
them, because I turned every (and I mean EVERY!) stone around.
Once, I found the name in an online family tree; a sibling
had married into this family. The researcher had more information and put me in
touch with the lady who had provided him with that part of information. It
turned out that she not only was a distant cousin of my client, but also a
genealogist and archivist who had actually wondered what had happened to the
cousin who all of the sudden vanished.
So, you see, it is possible to find relatives, but you
really need time, know your way around, be creative, and, most of all, you need
luck! Without luck you will not be able to get there!
But even without meeting your relatives, you will meet a lot
of kind and friendly people in Germany. And who knows, maybe it turns out that you
are related?
Enjoy your trip!