Last month, I was in a slump and missed my post. I was
moving back to the house my husband and I built when we were young. We had such
high hopes for it and slowly began working towards those goals while having and
raising 6 children. As you can imagine,
it was S L O W. We abandoned it to live in my mother’s home when
1. She moved into an assisted living facility
because of early onset of dementia and...
2. My sweetheart had stage 4 col-rectal cancer.
2. My sweetheart had stage 4 col-rectal cancer.
It is a story and a half house, so my children were concerned about
long range challenges for me and my knees.
Oh well, who know what will happen
in ten years. The biggest challenge has been overcoming the pain at seeing what
he had worked so lovingly to make had fallen into disrepair. Some reading this
know me on social media such as Facebook. I frequently talk about comments from
the tree house. My son remarked that it was an apt description as it was a
cross between the Swiss Family Robinson’s and the Bernstein Bear’s home.
Now
you can understand a little of the confusion and disorientation I have been
experiencing in planning ahead. Well, that coupled with family calling and
asking for assistance with their personal problems. What’s a mom to do, say no?
I think not. That is what life and genealogy is all about.
An experience I have had as I have been moving back home, is
unpacking my genealogy files. Many times, it makes me smile as I see, notes
written on scrap pieces of paper, and no reference as to where I found it.
Today, moving in the professional world of genealogy, I hear chastisement in my
head for not having a research plan sheet, or writing down my documentation. I have
empathy for those who find themselves with genealogy information and not a clue
as to which book it was they found it in. Let me explain.
Going back to building a house and finishing it ourselves
while raising 6 children, will help you understand a little bit. I worked as a
public health nurse or school nurse while my children were growing up, and
helped my husband with work projects he had as well. We are member of The
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, which as most know emphasize
finding your family history. We were the only members on both sides of family, who
were members. No one had a clue about their family’s history, it all fell in my
lap to find it, along with all the above. To shorted this story, I will just
say the way it happened was, aside from a few planned visits to major
libraries, I would swing by the local library for a 30 minutes to grab some
research time when I went grocery shopping or was running errands. My
sweetheart would look at me when I got home (days before cell phones) and say “you
sure took a long time, at the library again?”
And that is how notes were scratched on odd pieces of paper and now, random
information found without documentation. It was almost a lifestyle. Grabbing moments
to recreate life times, it is why I am going back and filling in the blanks
now. Life before the internet was not easy, nor was it always organized. That is my personal family history finding story.
Has anyone else experience a lifestyle so random or am I the
only one?
You are not the only one. I have those sheets with no idea where they came from. And I raised 6 children too. I hope the return to your old homestead is a good one and that your knees continue to allow you to navigate the stairs.
ReplyDeleteThanks Kristin. It is helpful to know one is not alone.
DeleteI've only been at this about 5 years and I'm already thinking about opening the 3 totes and purging. I had no plans to do genealogy when I started. I was just looking for grandparents. It's time to throw out the pages and pages of stuff I printed when I didn't know if they were yes or no. I won't ever look at those pages again, especially not while they are in a tote. And I bet I find something useful in the process.
ReplyDeleteI still struggle with this. And the internet makes it easy to collect lots but taking time to document sources is often more time than I have. Grandchildren, kids with house projects needing our help,and travel take most of our time even though we're retired
ReplyDeleteMoving and sorting, always bitter sweet. Gentle hugs friend! Gentle hugs!
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